Project DVORA works with survivors of gender-based violence, including domestic violence and sexual assault. We assist community members in emotional support, safety planning and navigating logistical hurdles. We help survivors who are currently involved in an abusive relationship, actively exiting a relationship or still experiencing abuse from a previous relationship.
Our program further strives to guide and empower the community in responding to gender-based violence, along with supporting loving, safe and respectful relationships. Services include advocacy-based counseling, resilience-building groups, legal support and prevention education.
Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that one person in a relationship uses to gain power and control over the other. Abuse is not caused by anger, mental problems, alcohol or other drugs, or other common excuses. It is caused by one person’s belief that they have the right to control their partner.
Facing Domestic Violence
I pushed aside the uneasiness, telling myself he was harmless...
Opportunities for social support, as well as cultivating a sense of meaning, purpose and control. We offer groups one at a time, each lasting for several weeks and focusing on a specific theme. We determine group themes based on current client interest. Our offerings may include:
Family Group that teaches resilience and strengthens relationships
Creativity & Healing (art, writing, theater)
Speaking & Writing for Change (a social action group)
We offer educational opportunities to Jewish schools and youth programs, trainings for professionals and community members, and case-specific consultation with rabbis, friends, teachers, community leaders and families.
Talk with friends, family, neighbors, coworkers, rabbis or lay leaders. Let them know what’s happening and brainstorm ways they might be able to help.
If possible, have a phone accessible at all times and know what numbers to call for help. Know where the nearest public phone is located. Know the phone number to your local 24-hour domestic violence hotline. If your life is in danger, call the police.
Plan the easiest escape. Decide on a door or window to exit quickly and safely.
Teach your children how to get help. Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner. Plan a code word to signal to them that they should get help or leave the house and go to a neighbor.
Practice how to get out safely with your children.
Make a habit of backing the car into the driveway and keeping it fueled. Keep the driver’s door unlocked and others locked, for a quick escape.
Move away from the kitchen, bathroom or any place where there are dangerous or sharp objects.
Try not to wear scarves or long jewelry that could be used to strangle you.
Create several plausible reasons for leaving the house at different times of the day or night.
Make a plan for times when you are at work. You may want to speak with your employer about changing work locations or hours, or alerting security or reception staff to your situation.
Prepare an emergency bag. Put together a bag that includes money, copies of house and car keys, medicine, and copies of important papers such as birth certificates, social security cards, immigration documents, marriage certificate, court orders, and health insurance information. The bag can also include extra clothes, important phone numbers, or other things you need if you have to leave your home in a hurry. If you prepare an emergency bag, have a place in mind where you can safely keep it such as at the home of a trusted friend or family member.
Tell your children that violence is never right, even when someone they love is being violent. Tell them that neither you, nor they, are at fault or are the cause of the violence, and that when anyone is being violent, it is important to stay safe.